What's a "perfect match" anyways...

A friend of mine once said: "I'm sorry if you thought not all men are the same... because they are... sorry to burst your bubble."
And for a long time I had thought that not all men are the same, that not every human is the same, and I continue to believe it... but somehow, what he said... made me think...


Talking to a friend today, admiring the many things we have in common I said to myself "He seems so different!" and the thought came back to my mind "They're all the same"...really? and then I wondered..."Why am I even wondering about this?" The thought of checking if all humans are or not the same will take you nowhere... they will never be the same!

Don't take into consideration the fact that there are tendencies that us, as humans show, THAT has nothing to do with anything. We will all expect the unexpected and receive the typical most of the times, but then again; many created ideas of our childhood, our ideal, and everything we have around were created in fairy tales, story books and daydreams, literally, in the hands of the writer, so who decides what the unexpected is?; and somehow people still believe in them and expectations reach an unreal level in which nobody will ever be good enough.

Being down to earth does not mean you want to have a great person as your loved one, a working man or woman, competent, with goals, caring, in other words "the one and only"; being down to earth is giving the other person a chance to grow and show their real self and remembering that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Being down to earth is realizing that people are perfect the way they are, as long as they have the maturity to realize that a piece of art is always appreciated best when seen from different angles and that a beautiful poem does not stand out because of perfect words but because of real feeling from one heart to the other.

I guess society leads you to believe that your perfect match is out there, and that you don't know where you might find it... but you meet your perfect match in many places, many times, it's just that most of the times your "perfect match" needs time to become your "perfect" and needs someone just like you to spend the time it takes both of you to turn into the human beings you want to be...

Lesson learned:

I'll always be the same, unless I reach a point in which I say "this is not working right" and even though getting the "perfect match ideal" thing out of your head is not easy, it's just a matter of opening your eyes wide enough and noticing the beauty that sarcasm and chance bring you, and realizing that you meet your match on a daily basis... Who knows?... it's just a theory...

Ephemeral ideas of change...

Seeing both sides of the picture...
A person who is completely in love
and a hurting heart makes you wonder...
how it all matched in the end...
I think human behavior tells us that no matter what you do... or how much you struggle you will always be predictable...
A predictable person with ephemeral ideas of change...





Under no circumstance will I say everybody is the same... Although everybody is the same sometimes
I spend too much time at times...thinking
Thinking about the way things work
Why some people act the way they do...but more than that why I sometimes act the way I do...

Some people let their life go by not knowing how much they're missing, the laughs, the memories, the happiness...
Some people fight to be different...to prevent their lives from being predictable, usual, like everybody else and they don't realize that makes them just like the rest...

And I wonder...why we struggle trying to be different...
When we already are...

I started watching people, what they do, what they believe in, what they consider is the most important thing in life, in friendship, in dreams...
Yes, I think in a different way... and that makes me just as everybody else...
Yes, I cry when I lose a friend, someone who had no chance to go beyond 20, someone who lived his life trying to be different not realizing he already was...
Yes, I don't know much about anything in life and most of the times I listen... I listen carefully, to what people say, to what they listen to, to what they think, to how they love without words, to how they hold beautiful hidden dreams in their soul...

It saddens me to realize some people have actually come to believe that we should all be the same, that men "are all the same", that women "will always act that way" , that relationships "will have the same ending"...that haven't realized that we are... only humans... learning, trying, fearing, loving, crying, believing...

So when I say... "I thought you were different" I mean... "I thought you knew who you really are"
because only a person who has discovered or is in the process of knowing who they are knows how to act honestly, selflessly, happily...from the heart... not trying to impress anybody, not trying to go beyond galaxies to prove that they are "different"

Theories, theories... silly theories...
Butterflies that fly in my head, carrying dreams, secrets, love, music and tears...


Lesson learned:

I am...the same as you... a person who's trying to be different from you...
You are different already...
And I... I'm just a girl...a dreamer who's in the process of realizing that love is ephemeral when you don't know who you really are just yet...